The Younger Me
As I’m getting older, I find my mind mulling over the past, from time to time, and thinking about how my life has turned out. I’m fairly sure that there is not one aspect of my life today ,that is as I thought it would be, when I was 21. I’ve just chosen the age of 21, as a point of reference. I did have plans for the future, but thinking back to that time, I remember myself as being very confident that the future would turn out exactly as I wanted it. I wasn’t a confident person, but I was confident about what my future would look like.
My values are still the same, but most of my interests today, differ from my interests at age 21. I hadn’t discovered exercise, or the need to care for my health. If you had told me then, that exercise and health, would form a vital part of my life, there is no way I would have believed you. At age twenty one I was married, but fast forward to now, I am no longer married. I knew then that I wanted three children, as to me, three seemed like a manageable sized family. I did have those three children, and I expected I would have them around me forever. I never would have imagined that after bringing up three children, I would have to then live my life, mostly without having them in my life.
At 21, I would never have though that I could walk over 1200k on the Camino, alone, at age 60. Actually at age 21, I wouldn’t have imagined still being alive at age 60! When I was younger, I had a huge amount of angst about myself. Most of the advice I would give my younger self comes from that lack of confidence.
- You are good enough. Ignore anyone who tells you that you are not.
- You don’t have to do it all
- You don’t have to be perfect
- Make plans, but recognise that they may have to change. Always have Plan B ready
- You are strong enough to survive alone
- Trust yourself and your instincts
- You do not have to justify yourself to anyone
- Do something every day that makes you happy
- Be confident in your choices
- Celebrate your victories
Most of the above pieces are advice are probably only obvious in hindsight, so I don’t beat myself up that I was in need of this advice when I was younger. I do wonder how my life may have turned out, if I had been given that advice at the time. Actually, I do think I have turned out okay, without the advice, and by flying by the seat of my pants most of the time.
Have you ever thought of the advice that you would give to your younger self?
This post is linked to Denyse’s Life This Week
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